What do you think about taking revenge?

This was the question my son asked me today. Without thinking much, I replied, “It’s just a waste of time.” Then I turned the question back to him “What do you think?”

His answer surprised me. “I believe the same,” he said.

Curious, I asked him why. His response made me feel a deep sense of pride as a parent:

“Life is meant to be lived happily without troubling others. If I think of revenge and operate with the mindset of troubling someone, one day it will come back to me. And moreover, when I think of revenge, it’s not me who is driving myself it’s the other person who is controlling me.”

At that moment, I realized parenting isn’t just about raising children, it’s about raising responsible human beings.

Long ago, I learned an important lesson from Sadhguru about parenting:

“If you don’t nurture your child to be at least 1% better than you, then you have done great damage to humankind and the universe.”

This thought hit me hard, and ever since, my partner and I have been intentional in helping our boys grow into individuals who respect others unconditionally, think deeply, and live with kindness.

Hearing my son’s words today reassured me we are on the right path.

Parenting isn’t about controlling our children it’s about guiding them, shaping their perspectives, and creating a world where they can be better humans than us.

As parents, what are you doing today to ensure your child is growing into a responsible and kind human being?