Yesterday, I had a deep and eye-opening conversation with one of my mentees. She was struggling with two things—craving sugar and being inconsistent with her daily walks. Even though she knew both habits were not good for her health, she couldn’t break the cycle.

She expressed frustration over her inability to reduce sugar intake and stay committed to her walks. Instead of jumping into solutions, I encouraged her to first acknowledge her struggle. I told her, “Go easy on yourself. Don’t fight the craving or the inconsistency. Instead, observe it.”

Then, I asked her a simple but powerful question:

“Are you attached to being healthy, or are you committed to being healthy?”

This question changed the entire direction of our conversation.

Attachment vs. Commitment: Understanding the Difference

Many of us say we want something—whether it’s better health, a successful business, or personal growth. But are we truly committed, or are we just attached to the idea of it?

1. Attachment: Wanting Without Action

• Attachment means you like the idea of something but remain controlled by emotions, habits, and external circumstances.
• You may say, “I want to be healthy,” but when cravings hit, or motivation fades, you struggle to take action.
• You feel guilty when you don’t meet your expectations, leading to self-blame or frustration

2. Commitment: Taking Ownership

• Commitment means you make a conscious decision to follow through, regardless of obstacles.
• Even when cravings come, or you don’t feel like walking, you still take action because you’ve made a promise to yourself.
• Commitment is about doing what is necessary, not just what is convenient.

When my mentee reflected on this, she realized that she had been attached to the idea of being healthy but had never truly committed to it.

The Turning Point: Moving from Attachment to Commitment

After gaining this clarity, she made a shift. Instead of saying, “I want to be healthy,” she started saying, “I am committed to my health.”

With this new mindset, she:

• Accepted her sugar cravings without guilt but started reducing them intentionally.
• Stopped waiting for motivation and became consistent with her walks.
• Understood that commitment is a practice, not a feeling.

This small but powerful shift changed her approach from struggle to empowerment.

A Lesson for All of Us

This conversation reminded me that we all face this dilemma in different areas of life—whether it’s fitness, business, relationships, or personal growth.

We often say we want success, health, or happiness, but unless we commit to the daily actions required, we remain stuck.

How to Move from Attachment to Commitment

1. Acknowledge where you are – Accept your struggles without judgment.
2. Make a clear decision – Decide to commit, regardless of challenges.
3. Take small, consistent actions – Progress is built on daily habits, not just motivation.
4. Detach from perfect results – Focus on showing up, not being perfect.

Final Thought

Attachment keeps us in wishful thinking. Commitment pushes us into action.

So, ask yourself today:

• Am I attached to my goals, or am I truly committed?

That answer might just change everything for you.

What is one area of your life where you need to shift from attachment to commitment? Share your thoughts in the comments!